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I posted an article on my twitter account on self esteem. Self esteem and confidence is an issue and character trait all people deal with on a daily basis. It can be easily built up but just as easily toppled down. Unfortunately a lack of self esteem and confidence can cripple a students progress and importantly willingness to take risks and grow intellectually.
-Read the article on twitter
1. Do you agree with the idea of failing forward described in the article? Do you have a personal example of this?
2. Post tricks you use to stay confident and full of positive self esteem
3. Comment and share dialogue with 3 other students.
I do agree with the idea of failing forward, but I don't have an example of this because I always had to get everything perfect and I'd get crap from people if I didn't do something right the first time.
ReplyDeleteWhat are tricks you use to stay "perfect" and full of positive self esteem.
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DeleteYou'r jade right?
DeleteWhy do you thinke people give you the C*** word?
Delete@Danyal: The tricks I used to stay "perfect" (they weren't very good) were to not ask for help or to dismiss all help or to cover up major mistakes and lie about what happens.
Delete@Derrick: I think they gave me a hard time (lets put it that way) because people expected me to be above average because of my constantly increasing intelligence and so when I made mistakes people weren't expecting them.
@roronoa zoro i dont you did it perfect cause no one is perfect i think you probably just did the work really good.
Deletejohn this is not Facebook or anything to to be careful for the words u use.
DeleteSo if you have to do everything "perfect" and if someone call's your work the "C" word then what do you think you have to do too make your work better next time? What can you do too learn from the mistake? How can you better yourself next time? what are tips you can use too have positive self-esteem.
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ReplyDelete1. No, I don't agree with this idea because it's not a goood idea. Kids might think the next they do something they'll be off the hook, not knowing that you'll snap next time. No, I don't have a personal example because the last time I did something like that I was with my grandma and she just gave me sarcasm.
ReplyDeletei did not get what you said. Kids might think the next they do something
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DeleteWhenever I feel like crap because my peers have made judgments about me, I just know that that's their stuff, and that just because they say it doesn't mean it's true. XD XD
ReplyDeleteWhat do you do if it is true?
Deleteagain ignore them everybody has a different opinion about every thing that exists
DeleteQ1: I agree with the article that in order to learn you have to be comfortable with the task in order to accomplish it, for example when i was about 7 years old i had a toy that was realy valuble to me(i forgot what it was). But at the time i loved that toy but one day i was running and ran in to my brother. When i got up and looked at myself, I had a scraped elbow and because of that i got real mad and threw my toy at my bro but in stead i failed and broke the toy when it hit the ground. My dad told me taht he would help me fix the toy. so the next day we fixed it and from that lesson i learned to never throw a toy at my bro
ReplyDeleteAnd my self esteem kicked in to tell me to never hit my brother
Deletehow can you connect that in the real world because i do not think anyone would throw a toy at someone
Deletewell aqib you are now talking to someone who has thrown a toy
Deletei agree with Aqib. In the real world people won't just "throw their toy". A way you can understand better Nauman: Suppose Sidney Crosby was a free agent . Then the Tampa Bay Lightning offered him a deal. However Pittsburgh offered him a better deal and Crosby took that. Tampa's GM won't just go around throwing papers or pucks at people because he's angry.
Delete2. The only trick I have is to ignore all negative commments that you know are not true. If someone throws the truth, and it hurts just brush it off.
ReplyDeleteIts not easy to do that you know. It still stays inside of you
Deletehow do brush hurt feeling just like that its not that easy?
DeleteIt's not that simple. If it hurts, it stays. It will become a scar. What do you do about it? What can you do? Beause your brain will remind you every single time about that little flaw someone pointed out. Humans have feelings and its not that simple to brush it off. What do you do to brush it off? What are the steps you go through in order to get it off your shoulder?
DeleteIt's not that easy and simple just too "bursh it off". What I mean is word's do hurt this saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is a complete lie. Those hurtful words that someone had said too you just keep coming back too you and echo in your head. even when you try too forget it you can't. Sometime's it will stick with you.
DeleteThat's what I do, the question asked for tips I just shared a suggestion not everybody can do that, I know, but some people have the ability.
DeleteWell, that just like crumbling a paper and expect it to be the same as before. Anything that happens ALWAYS leaves something behind to remember.
Delete......Well, I don't think anyone has the ability too just "brush it off". You see, because even if you have this whole attitude that you don't care about the negative comment's that people make, at the end of the day you will start too care and it will hurt your feeling's.
DeleteQ.1 I agree with the article because to be able to do something solid good you have to do it wrong first to learn from your mistakes. one day im having dinner at the dinner table and im pouring my self juice and i spill it everywhere the next time i pour juice i wont spill it cause i learned from my mistakes. but when i spilled it my mom poured me juice and said thats how you pour your juice. after we cleaned the mess.
ReplyDeleteSomething similar had happened to me in my life too. When something like this happens, it feels bad and we start thinking about what others are think of us. Even worse we start thinking bad about ourselves. It feels good when our parents or the people around us doesn't get mad. Makes us a little happy.
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DeletePablo, but that is a weak situation. In the real world, we have jobs and family's to take care of. So when you fail at something it can cause a huge problem and no one can really teach you how to solve that problem. You have to learn on your own. So do you have a falling forward moment that's more important in your life?
Deletei agree with the failing forward concept because no one is perfict and if we had a chance to lern from our mistakes, im sure we would do it. im sure that if any one of you had done somthing wrong then your parents would be at your neck, you would lern not to do it again but they are teaching it wrong. I do not have an example of my mother or tom showing me failing forward and i do not expect this of them.
ReplyDelete1.I agree with the idea of failing forward because every body makes mistakes and mostly people learn from thier mistakes not when they get yelled at for making mistakes.
ReplyDeleteI dont really have alot of self esteem although I try to increase it.
2. one trick I use to keep my self esteem going is think a little on the positive side because theres always a bright side to every thing:)
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Deletegood point but what if the kid doesnt think positive only negative what would yu say to him ? or what would you do to help?
Deletei would tell him/her that there is always a positive answer to every question.and if you cant think positive then don't think negative either just ignore the problem and be stress free:)
Delete1. Yes because in order to succeed you must fail first. The way his mom was easy on the kid about dropping the milk was a smart thing to do. Because this makes him more comfortable when it comes to making mistakes. She basically taught him that it was an opportunity to relax once the mistake happened and try again until he got it right. Personally for me, whenever I made mistakes I always got yelled at -___- .
ReplyDeleteThen I feel super bad. I feel horrible and ashamed and it makes me 10 times more nervous to ever make a single mistake again which of course, causes more.
Don't you think that if someone did the falling forward to you, you'd be more comfortable making mistakes and then you'd be making mistakes so frequent without people noticing, then that becoming your perfection.
DeleteAynur, sooo true. I agree about how we feel bad.
Delete@Aliyah, well the failing forward was suppose to show you how making mistakes the first time is ok. I don;t think that they are trying too tell you that "OH YOU SHOULD MAKE MISTAKES ALL THE TIME!". No. You have too learn from you mistakes.
DeleteWell, I thought it was a good idea sort of in a way. I know that if that was me and I spilled my milk my mum would just yell at me and tell me too clean it up. The mom is just trying too point out that its ok sometimes too make mistakes, beacuse we all know that we have too learn from our mistakes.
ReplyDeleteYes i agree with this article on
ReplyDelete(Failing Forword). The Reason
Why I Agree Is Because,
everytime you fail you are one step closer to success.
For example if you do not get a good grade on a test the next time you have a test if you study you will do great!
But how do you know for sure? What is that little voice at the back of your head that stops you from going? What do you do to shut it out? What are your solutions to every little problem there is? How are you one step closer to success? How do you know?
DeleteYou have to remember you control yourself not that little voice in the back of your head. If you decide to do it it was your decsion not the voice.
Deletei do agree with the idea of failing forward because no one is real if you never made a mistake however the problem is that not everyone takes a mistake as a learning activity
ReplyDeletei do have a personal example of this, just today we were told to do a group activity however we did not focus on the task in stead we chit-chat with our friends then Mr. Cheney gave us his lecture and i am not sure about everyone else but i took it as a mistake and i learnt from it
talking to yourself is a great way however i like to use the tactic of being more competitive
because the more competitive you are at something you are good at the more people will know you as the "smart kid" or the "athletic kid"
But what if you're not the "athletic kid" or "smart kid" ? If you're not competitive, someone would ask themselves: what am i good at? they wouldn't know. So what would you tell them?
Deletei would tell them that perfect practice makes perfect and anyone can turn better like that
DeleteBut if they don't know what they're good at, what can they perfectly practice to be perfect?
DeleteWell, I would tell them too try new things they have thought about doing or never thought of doing and see if they are good at that. It doesn't have to be sports or they don't have to be academically smart. It can be anything like art or poetry or even writing.
DeleteI do agree with the idea of failing forward, because no one's perfect. So why would parents wait for you to become perfect? It'll never happen, everyone has flaws, and we can't help it. It's impossible to live without making any mistakes. I don't have an example of this. My parents think everything that i do, i'll do it right. And they're wrong, cause then, i make a mistake and they're mad or dissapointed. So i'm going to make sure they read this too.
ReplyDeleteTricks I use to stay confidant and have positive self esteem is to just do what you love and are amazing at, which to me is my art. When i do that, no one could tell me i'm doing it wrong or it looks bad. Art is anything, and everyone has a different opinion on it. I always feel good when doing it. It's my happy place in the world.
great confidence sarah
Deletethis is so true i totally agree with this point no one is perfect and i love how the mom doesnt care when he made a mistake because i think like she knows he will learn from his mistakes cause also they went outside and practiced to hold the carton of milk properly so he knows and he doesnt do it again
DeleteWell, it's not that she didn't care she was just trying too make him better himself :)
Delete1. "He learned that his mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new" This sentence is what really stood out and caught my attention during my reading. The one sentence that I think really explained what "failing forward" meant, that kids or anyone shouldn't stress out just because of one mistake, because mistakes were meant to be learnt from. Yes, i do agree with this idea, because I for one, am someone with a very low self esteem from when I was in Elementary school caused by bullying, and it still sometimes affects the way I think about my self and what I do now. I'm not sure if this article made me feel better, or just gave me an understanding of what I should do to get over my low self esteem. But i think that this article can help people, even me if i just remind my self these exact words("He learned that his mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new")
ReplyDeletewhat would you call someone that learnt their mistake but they keep repeating it for instance the people that followed hitler the first time they made a grave mistake however they gave him power again why?
Delete1. Yes, I do agree with the idea of failing forward because we all learn from our mistakes nobody needs to tell us to wait for perfection, permission, reassurance, for someone else to change, kids to be mature, someone else to give you all the answers or, someone else to give you a clear set of instruction. We learn from our mistakes but we can always take advice from others.
ReplyDeleteMy mom is always telling me what to do, clean your room ect. I can start failing forward and not wait for my mom to give a clear set of instructions.
2.Ways to stay confident is to:
-keep focus
-recall success
-believe in your self
-Always think Positive!
2. I usually think that in the end everything is going to be alright. For self-confidence, I just don't like to think about it that much. I enjoy being me and doing whatever I like whenever and however. Cause in the end, YOLO (you only live once). I'm serious. If someone has something negative to say about me, then I'll shut it out. I just won't care and I'll show them that so they'll shush about it. Just be yourself, and don't care about what others have to say! You have a whole life ahead of you, and you have to not take things seriously and enjoy the little things while you have it.
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DeleteYes I Agree With You!
The Reason Why I Agree
With You Is Because life is short. If you dont enjoy life now you will never learn to enjoy it.
-Michael J. Smith
I think your right even though sometimes its hard not too care you will someday get over it. Just be yourself and have positive people around you too accept you for who you are.
DeleteQ 2: whenever i have very low self asteem i usualy talk to my hamster or play with my cat. They are a good physiatrist because they love me no matter what, they dont tell me how terrible my hair is, and they dont care how unperfict i am, the way they see it, I am perfict.
ReplyDeletewhat if you get bored by palying with your hamster or you cat then how would you stay confident.?
Deletei would never get bored with them, they are good friends, but i see what your getting at. I would ask myself what would my grandfather say if i was so low that i actualy listend to them. he would probably rant about how no ones perfict and how i look fine, he'd then walk out of the room while still talking and come back on another subject. I dont like to listen to people who go out of there way to make themselfs look more supirior compared to me, i think of them as a lower, dumber spices.
DeleteI think that's very nice and a good point Lauren :). Even though they don't talk you can just tell how they feel about you.
DeleteQ2: The tricks i have to keep my self confident are to place my peers as competition and i tell myself that all of them are no where near me in my grades(i still get that feeling where people are better than me because they realy are better than me), its just a trick i use. And to keep my self esteem high, i just tell myself i can do it and i just gtet my self pumped up for what ever task i am going for. For example i want to go for the atlete of the year, and for that I play sports to do practice. After all "PERFECT PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT" and now i use that saying!!!.
ReplyDeletedo you think that when we are playing outside THAT IS PERFECT PRACTICE because i don't we do fouls every ten seconds that is not perfect practice
Deletebut isnt that telling youyr self your better than others it gives you confidence but I think a little over confidence.
Deleteto add on to Abeeshan's: Isn't also thinking yourself lesser then your peers lower your self esteem?
DeleteWell you can do "perfect practice" too better yourself.
DeleteQ.1I personaly agree with the idea of falling to be better at things because its true,like if i play a soccer game the only way to improve my soccer skill is to fail and learn frome my mistakes and try stop my mistakes in the next game.It only help you in a way that some people dont see it.Another story that some kids could relate to is test.If you fail in a test the next time you would work harder to get a better grade the next time right???Q.2Some tricks that i use when im depreased are telling my self "next time will be better" or try "harder next time".etc.The point is talk to youre self its NOT being crazy is just helping youre life and youre sucses.
ReplyDeleteI like your example because it relates to today ,because if someone failed the rebound quiz theyn noe know what to do and not waste 5 minute group work time!!!
DeleteDerrick your example is relevant to all kids in school but do you have a more personal moment that really made you learn from your mistake?
Delete1: I am agree with what is described in the article because if we do some mistakes we don't have to be afraid of what we do because failure is what which tells us how to be sucessfull. We always do something wrong in our life and when we do soemthing wrong that tells us how to be a strong person and how to face the problems which are going to come in our life.Our mistakes leads me how to betetr in you future if you face same kind of mistake that you afced in your past.In your future focuse on positive things what you did rather then focusing on you big mistakes you did in your past, and when you don't focuse on your past mistakes then you wil be relaxed
ReplyDeleteAnd i am not sure about any of my personal example about Self-Esteem.
2:The tricks that I use to stay confident and full of positive self esteem are if I remeber something that i did in past and that thing seems a mistake to me then i rememeber a thing that i did really good in the past and that's how I don't get focused on what mistakes I did in the past, and I think positive about everything even my mistakes.
1. I do agree with the idea of failing forward. I think it's really good to fail forward, cause we can learn from our expeirences and do it right the next time. Whenever a teacher asks a question i never really raise my hand up, because i always think that my answers gonna be wrong, but when a someone else raised their hand up and got the wrong answer, i asked myself "How?", they didn't really care if it's wrong or right,that person had a lot of self esteem.That's a personal experience for me.
ReplyDelete2. I think it's better to ignore what people say, because when you listen to negative comments, it puts you down. You are who you are, don't ever try to be fake.
nice personal experience @ geetanjali i also don't raise my hand up thinking of is the answer going to be right or wrong.
DeleteI so agree with you Geetanjali. What's even worse is when they get the same answer as you was thinking of. It's as if you could have done the same, only if you had a little more confident. It makes you feel sad and stupid to do these things. That's what brings you r self-esteem down. Like they say " I rather regret things I have done rather than regret things I haven't done."
DeleteIts okay to be wrong, in fact some questions are design for you to get wrong.
Deleteyes i do agree with falling forward. But I know that learning from your mistakes is right but I dont do it that often because it doesnt automaticallly come everytime. As many said that today can be an example about how we learned to use group time properly also I learned that losing is okay because you have another chance to win next time. When it comes to sports i really like to win but if I lose i know how to control myself.
ReplyDeleteTo stay confident I talk to my self I ask other people's opinion for whatever I had done. But mostly talk to my self. I remind myself that losing is okay but that doesnt mean I bring my self down.
I like your fist point on how you don't always do it because the solution doesn't just come to you. So what can you do to make sure to remember on finding the solution the next time you make a mistake?
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Deletegreat to hear talking to your self is a valuable step. Now get reading other posts and getting some dialogue between you and your peers.
DeleteWell, when you think about it, I do agree with the idea. I do agree that making mistakes isn't the end of the world. You should get another chance to improve your self-esteem. When a person makes a mistake, they are already broken inside, if they have no other choice, they are broken completely inside. On the other hand, there is diffrent limits. If a person makes a unbeleivable mistake, something that is really bad, then maybe another chance wouldn't be available. Failing foward brings success. It brings confidence when someone gives you another chance. I remember, in third grade I had gotten a bad grade in a math test. My dad is a math person and expects me to get good marks. When I gave him my failed test, all he said was " It's okay. Try harder next time." This gave me confidence and I felt better. If he got mad at me, I would have started to cry.
ReplyDelete^ that was number 1
DeleteFor some the crying may be the motivation needed to succeed next time!
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ReplyDeleteYes i do agree on the article on failing forward because whenever you fail its improves your step to going forward you learn from the mistakes you made. He accidently made the milk carton fall but next time he will be more cautious. I also like and agree on when the mother didn't yell at him she transformed her perception of an accident and a mistake into a lifelong learning lesson. If the mother yelled at him what use would that make? Nothing right? She would yell and that’s it but i don’t make him not drop it the next time. It’s basically the first step to wisdom. You learn from yours and others mistakes. They know that minor failures and set backs are just the way we all learn. You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. And also practice makes improvement.
ReplyDeleteA personal example would be in math. We had a math question and it was very difficult, i didn’t understand and neither could the rest of us. But our math teacher didn't give us the answer and we didn't give up either. We tried and tried and tried but still yet i didn't get it.We failed....more than once or twice but that didn't matter it was as long we understood and tried she was okay. In the ending we couldn't figure out the answer neither could we even understand the concept but truly that didn't matter but we still tried and in the very ending our math teacher taught us the concept and then the next time we did this type of math we had no problems Instead of the math teacher yelling at us because we didn't understand she let us try and practice. Because we couldn't get it didn't mean we would never get it. Our failure in math made success to our very own self.
Practice makes improvement! What a great line to go with PERFECT practice make perfect. This is a highly detailed response Neha - AWESOME! likely intimidating some from responding.
Delete1.I do argee because failure is success and success is failure and Every experience will teach you something if you are open minded and willing to let itand i also think when he drop the milk he learned from his mistakes . and I dont have a example for this yet do number 2 later
ReplyDeleteQ.2 THE tricks i use to keep my self confident is by telling my self nothing is impossible if i just keep my mind to it meaning like i can do it i just have to concentrate on the task.also the tricks i use to keep my self esteem up is by telling my self you can do it dont let nothing get in your way, i give my self positive thinking and take out all the negative stuff.
ReplyDeletehas the negative points ever crossed by your mind? has made you fall down ?
DeleteDo some of the negative comments come back too you sometimes? If so, do you only block them out with positive thoughts? are there any other ways you use too block them out?
DeleteGreat questions. Pablo you need to recheck your posts and respond.
Delete1. i do agree that thae statement failling forward is correct because i actually experianced that. 2 weeks ago manraj( my cousin) stole my iphone that my dad gave me. i found out that it was him because my friend called and i heard the rintone in his cupboard. i made a plan of revenge, soi had a couple of water baloons. when he came outside i soaked him 10 secounds later he took out my iphone and started lauging. since it was cracked the water made it stop working. what i learned was i should think before i do stuff. and never soak my cousin in water.
ReplyDeleteso i failed getting revenge. which means i may get revenge later. because in order to succeed i must fail once.
DeleteSounds like Manraj should be very careful
Delete1. Yes I agree with failing forward. The reason for this is because I, like most or all people, learn from mistakes. It's just like what Mr. Cheney said "In order for you(us) to succeed, thousands of people have to fail." This applys to roughly all people. There are also lots of inventors who needed to deal with falling forward in order to succeed. For example: Steve Jobs, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, etc.
ReplyDeleteThe time I remember when falling forward helped me most was when I was in the 5th grade(10 yrs). So we started geometry and i didn't really understand it. So instead of asking for help, i just didn't do work. One day I got caught and had to do all the work I missed. So I was working triple time all night with my borther and dad for help. Then when the test came, I got an A+.
2. What I do to keep up my self esteem? I can honestly say nothing. But there are things I like to do that keeps me motivated. First and foremost, i have to saty positive. I can't feel or do good if I don't think I can. Second, I have friends who joke around a lot so atleast one of them can cheer me up when i'm down. Also being myself around friends and family and talking to them really helps.
Has someone every crushed your self esteem? Has their been a moment where the positive feeling good has been crushed?
DeleteIn this case crushed is a very strong word. There are moments when I feel down whether from failing at a simple task or just not being able to finish something. But no i've never had my self esteem crushed. The reason because i'm fortunate to be friends with great people and to be a part of a great family.
DeleteAlso to add on to question 2: There's a quote I try to keep in mind whenever I fail. "I (we) may have lost the battle, but not the war)" - I don't know who said it.
DeleteOh, that's an excellent quote.
DeleteGeorge Washington first said it after the Revolutionary War was finished. Also, Winston Churchill said something similar, Winston Churchill said "Britain may have lost a battle, but it has never lost a war".
good to know, thanks.
DeleteAwesome thread. Well written Talha. Get more active on the blog and share your insight. I'm sure you could get into some great conversations.
DeleteWill do Mr. Cheney and hopefully i can catch up on Eden( a.k.a Fried Chicken) because on this post, she commented about 30+ times.
Delete@Talha, its fun too blog :D.
DeleteI realize that now.
DeleteYes I agree of the concept of failing forward because yelling can work but its not respectful, also we can learn from our mistakes we dont have to be perfect. Also my personal example of this is that when I lose a game in basketball I dont get mad and say that it was a "fluke" I tell them good game, and control myself to not be a sore loser.
ReplyDeleteSome tricks I can do to make me not be a sore loser and have spotsmanship is sometimes to lose so I know how it feels and dont get mad, also to get advice from other people .
But there are some people, especially in sports, who don't accept a loss or a failure. Like the point you made about not being a sore loser when you lose a game i'm guessing your connecting that to today when the grade 7's just beat the grade 8's in ball. There was one person(in think you know who *cough Abdi *cough) who was acting like a sore loser. What can you do to convince people that there's nothing wrong with defeat.
DeleteWell, I think that it's not a bad thing too be competitive especially in sports. And if you do receive defeat just take it as it is and don;t be a sore loser because you don't wanna make your self look like a foool o.o
Delete@ Talha, haha read my mind. Well to convince people like that I could probably tell them too just don't talk to anyone if we lose so he wont be able to say anything which will cause a fight.
Delete@Eden, Yeah I agree being competitive isn't wrong but if you go over board with it you will look like a "fool"
@danyal, lol yah if you take it too far when it comes too losing you can look like a yah.
DeleteMost competitive people don't know how to lose cause they wrongly always expect to win. Thus playing to win you must first learn how to lose.
Delete@Mr Cheney, yeah that's kind of what I said in my post.
DeleteIt's nice that everyone is on now because then you don't have to wait to long for a reply.
Deletelearning from your mistakes is a very rare happening because people do not aknowledge the fact that they can take the fact of being the lower leveled being on the pyramid. Then use it as a tool on your belt like Batman, or...Mr.Cheney. It keeps you wanting to be the best but wanting it isn't enough. You have got to act up on to it.
ReplyDeleteSaying aww why didn't i get an A+?Is like saying why didn't I become succesful like that other person?Those little hinges on the door is what makes holds up everything.
WOW WOW WOW a reference to a quote of the day from last year Tushar - perfect.
Deleteyes i do agree with the idea of failing forward because once you fail, you go one step forwrd into doing it right and succeeding. like for example, when the boy accidently dropped the milk carton, he laerned how to do it right and practiced it.
ReplyDeletetricks that i use to confident would be like doing someting that i love or am amazing at.
I agree with the first paragraph, but how about you cant do something that your good at/like what would you do?
DeleteWhat do you like too do? How does it boost your self-esteem?
DeleteLets flush out these ideas...very short and basic and need to dialogue with your peers.
DeleteSome tricks I use to stay positive and keep my self esteem high, is to remind my self that I can always fix my mistakes, that I'm not useless and can do something if I try, and all it takes is to atleast try. Also, every mistake you make, you learn something new and I agree with what Hosni said, "Every time you fail, you are one step closer to success" beacause you learn that next time if something similar to what you did wrong happens, you would know to fix that mistake, it's like faith giving you another chance to fix your mistake and it's kinda like starting a frsh page like how in the book Rebound, Sean was had a deal with the principle to start a fresh page, if Sean fixed his mistakes, and he was doing exactley that until "The fight"
ReplyDeleteNot to bring your self-esteem down or anything but their comes a point where one day you cant fix your mistake... what would you do then? I do agree that next time you can fix your mistake but what about that time that you did your mistake? An example would be exams, you didn't study on a grade 11 exam and you fail what would you do then yes i know that in grade 12 you will study but what happened to grade 12? I have heard people talk about when you apply for a university they will look at your grade 11 marks because you are still in the middle of grade 12. Once its done...its done you can't do anything about it. What would you do then?
Deletetough advice but important advice. Yes some mistakes do have lasting impacts. Exam preparation, drinking and driving, unhealthy eating habits, etc...
Deletefalling forward is a good way to improve but it may not work all the time like if you wanted to fail youl learn nothing because you whatnted to fail.The main point is that falling forward may not work all the time its a risk to take.
ReplyDeletea Tip I have for Self-Esteem is not to care what other people think about you because just because they say it doesent make it true.
ReplyDeleteWonder if it is true what they about me , should i go with it because i know that what they said its right or should i just forget about my failure and move on?
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DeleteForget them and think what you think you are like and how you want see your self as.
Deleteeasy to say...tough to do.
Delete2. Building high self-esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight. And this isn’t necessarily easy. Yet, every single person has the capacity of high self-esteem .Here are some times on how to build you self esteem.
ReplyDelete1)face your fears:challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exagerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.
2)Forget your failures - learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don't limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can't succeed this time. Try again, you're wiser and stronger. Don't be trapped in the past!This is the one tip i learned from the article on Failures to success.
3) Stop comparing yourself with other people.:Human beings can amplify or reduce their value by contrasting themselves either positively or negatively with others. But if you play the comparison game, you’ll run into too many “opponents” you can’t defeat. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. So stop comparing!
Neha, your answer for #3 is actually an outsatanding point, people should really just fucose on themselves, if they want to be better at a sport for example, they just need to think of ways to make them better without looking at others unless they are gonna see others as a role model. They should just keep improving until they are satisfied, because how Mr. Cheney says: "There's always room for improvement" (Mr. Cheney was the one who said that right?)
DeleteI may not have said it but I agree and live it. Everyday I look to be a better teacher then I was the day before.
Deleteit look like not that many posted :$
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DeleteHeeeeey :3
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DeleteYeah i guess because this was a more complicated question so it took more time for people to answer
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DeleteYeah, maybe and they can also be busy with something else :).
DeleteMaybe they went out somewhere
DeleteSlow yes and likely for all the reasons you mentioned. This task required reading, then responding and perhaps some people are past the initial excitement of blogging.
DeleteThings I do too stay positive and motivated and have a high self-esteem, is something as little as thinking happy thoughts. I also try to do stuff that I know I am good at and enjoy, like sports and eating (I'm jking, but I do enjoy eating very much :3). Just try doing something you love too do.
ReplyDeletethat a good idea but remember that you have a low self esteem and you think that you will get made fun of if you play sports outside also you do not like to eat what would you do
DeleteI do like too eat. But if it's for those people who are low on self-esteem and restrain from eating because of body image then they should not look at themselves as wanting too be perfect but just by being themselves, they have too learn to respect themselves and there body.
DeleteYou are a very joyful person indeed.A great example of positivity(I am not even sure if that's a word?????)
DeleteSociety and the media have this thing where there has too be one perfect body image.
Deletei am talking about you putting yourself in other people shoes
Deletealso what if you are called fat you can take be sad about it or you can start losing weight
Deleteeven though it is hard why don't people that get called fat take it as a feedback and start losing weight than crying over it
Yah, but I thought you were referring to someone that has a a low self-esteem on body image.
DeleteWell, it's diffrent, I mean when a girl looks in the mirror she wants too see this beautiful model body reflection,
DeleteSo if there is a girl that is considered "too fat" when really she's not, she will try too go on and lose weight by not eating, and that can turn into something bad.
An example of having self esteem on your body image is ....if any of you remember there was a situation when a old school bus monitor got bullied because of her weight and she didn't do anything she kept her self esteem and she ignored them because she had trust in herself.
DeleteWell I think that they don't take it as feedback because they are tired of hearing it, but then you ask if your so tired of hearing it why don't you take action an do something about it?. I think that maybe they have been called names and bullied because they are of heavy size and they just don't want too hear it anymore, and when they do the just break down crying.
DeleteWhen the time is right they will look in the mirror and see that they do want too make a change and do something about it.
Well, and in the media today that is what they are in-forcing that you have too be this particular body image to be accepted and to be considered "perfect".
DeleteWhen some girl's look at how there is a pretty model on every cover of the magazine's they want too be like that.
i think that your friend has to play a big role because they should be the one to tell their friend that instead of not eating lose weight by exercising
Deleteam i right?
Well, in a way your right but you have too keep in mind that sometimes they just don't want too listen, they don't want too hear you talk about their weight issues because they know that they are of heavy size already. But I do agree that their friend can help them take baby steps so they feel more comfortable in the whole process.
DeleteBaby steps like: walking too school everyday to burn calories, eating a little bit more healthier doing at least 30-40 minute's of exercise everyday. Thing's like that and then as the time goes on you add more too it.
Wow what a thread of conversation. I agree the pressure on teens to look a certain way is menacing. It can cripple a students ability to learn and grow socially if they deem themselves "ugly" but unrealistic standards.
DeleteWhen you’re struggling, grieving or suffering from heartache, the pain can feel unbearable. Even in everyday life, the weight of a million little things can be heavy.
ReplyDeleteYour negative feelings won’t last forever; there’s a light at the end of every tunnel. It might not happen today or tomorrow, but you’ll feel better eventually.
When you understand and accept the volatile nature of life, it’s a lot easier to stay calm and relaxed – even in the hardest of times.
great quote Eden it is true :)
Delete*blushes* thank you :D teehee.
Deletelol eden/fried chicken
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Deletelove the quote eden
DeleteThanks.
Deleteindeed well articulated. It can be said that no pain can defeat father time. Thus the expression time heals all wounds.
Deletei learnt that moral,values and mistakes are learnt fast however it takes alot of hard work to understand school subject work why because learning from moral,values and mistakes come from the heart and school subject work come from the brain
ReplyDeleteFor some the morals and ethics don't come so fast and easily.
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ReplyDeletethat is a great list i like it but if david from rebound was in front of you would you give him the same list
Deletealso what if you are so depressed that you can not think any more happy thoughts
No matter how you see yourself and no matter how other people see you you should not complain "I lack this" or "I don't like this about me" we need to learn to accept ourselves the way we are.
ReplyDeleteI agree, and if you think that your too skinny or too over weight then do something about it. But you don't have too go to extreme measures.
DeleteI agree with what you said 100% Preet, but sometimes it's not easy when people around you are making you feel worse about yourself. Or even when you're having a test for example, and you studied but you're just writing slow and aren't able to finish it? wouldn't you feel bad? I mean yeah maybe its a mistake you can fix it but in the end you still feel bad about it. Or if after a test/quiz everyone says it's easy, but you studied and still had trouble? What would you do then? Becuse even if some problems are mistakes, you still feel bad..(just saying, that thought honestly just popped ino my mind after seeing your post)
Deleteand i know you would ask about it to the teacher( dont answer that question)
DeleteDon't get to worried when people say it was easy or it was hard, that's usually just posturing!
Delete2. A trick that everyone should know is " Perfect practice makes perfect" which is told my Mr.Cheney. If you make a mistake, don't start breaking yourself apart. Instead boost you self-esteem by having perfect practice to feel good and satisfy yourself.
ReplyDeleteAnother trick would be to always keep this in mind " It's a small quiz, life is the test." All the things that go wrong is just small quizzes in life. One day it will come to you, the big test, something that really matters in life. You will have to survive until that day to prove yourself best. For now you have to pass these quizzes. It's not that you did something wrong and you failed. It's what you do after it to boost and expand your self-esteem.
"I rather regret things I have done rather than regret things I haven't done." When you don't try,your self-esteem lowers down. Next thing you know, you 'll be watching someone do the same thing that you wanted to try out for. You would start thinking how you could have been on the spotlight and start feeling stupid and ashamed. It will be letting your dreams pass by. You have to stop dreaming and start moving in reality. " Apply your dreams in reality." If you don't, don't expect it to come true with a high self-esteem.
DeleteGreat comment. So important to keep pushing, trying, and going for new things. Poor self confidence can often prevent us from taking chances and reaching out to succeed.
DeleteWhat do you guys think about teen pregnancy what is their self esteem like and how can they fix it.
ReplyDeleteWell, teen's get pregnant for different reason's. They might be receiving neglect at home so they think by having a baby they will have someone too love or they just do it because they were being stupid and not using protection o.o.
DeleteBut I think that as far as self-esteem goes that by them being pregnant that there is a high chance of them having low self-esteem because of the taunting and bullying that they might receive.
People might call them nasty name's and taunt them and make them feel bad because they are having a child at such a young age.
Wow what a direct and potential difficult question. Awesome that you challenge your peers with this. Eden did her speech topic on this last year so she has raised a few good points.
Deletewhen i want increase my self esteem i try to do something new, something i haven’t done before, something that can put me in a position where i keep on telling my self that i can do it even though i get sick of it.
ReplyDeleteWith this, i start to gain some confidence in my abilities, directly reflecting my self-esteem i start to believe in my self.
Another reason is that i should have positive mind. NO NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
DeleteYou can't Elway's think positive there will be sometimes that something is bringing you down but thinking positive is a thing that I use too have high self-esteem and so far it's working :).
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DeleteAs well your negative thoughts and fears can also keep you focused.
Delete2.My tricks i us to stay confident and full of positive
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Dress neat
Practice good posture
Work out on a daliy bases
Give back to the community
Focus on ur school work
Thinking happy thoughts
i agree with your statement these strategies always works when i believe i flunked my tests.
DeleteThose are good tips, Ashley :3. I like where you said having good posture because your actions speak louder than words. So if I'm walking with no confidence and just putting my head down while walking you could easily tel something is wrong. But if I'm head up and smiling you can tell that i'm happy.
DeleteI agree posture and looking neat and tidy are good ones. As much as I just wear gym clothes I take time to keep it neat and matching, it seems silly but it boosts my confidence. The little things can go along way.
DeleteIn my opinion she makes great tips but one question i have is the one about thinking happy . if i always think happy i will never know the bad. But isn't that life knowing and living the good and bad. I feel that sometimes if i think negative it helps be because it give me motivation!
Deletewhat would you do if you want to improve your self esteem and yor friends try pulling you down like crabs in a bucket?????????????
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Deletei would try my best to not to listen to them and i would just ignore them and not really talk to them because they cant be friend if their trying to make me unsuccessful.friends help their friends they don't try to pull them down and rise themselves up. i am not afraid to tell the truth because i used to be like that but now i know better.
DeleteYour friend's aren't supposed too break you down but help you up. So i think that they would not be being a good friend if they did that.
DeleteWhat i will do is not listen i try to focus on my school work and just ignore what they are doing and what they are saying
DeleteGreat questions and some great answers. Any friend that wants to hold you down is one you need to remove yourself from.
DeleteI do agree with the idea of failing forward because no one is perfect, everyone has mistakes in there life no matter who you are on this planet. This has happened to me before, I was 4 years old and I got a hold of my little brothers baby powder and I made a big mess all over my parents bed and my mom she was all like " farina " in a happy voice and played with baby powder for a while.
ReplyDeleteIndeed nobody is perfect. What did you learn from the baby power incident?
DeleteI don't have many tricks I use to not jumble words up when I talk what I do is I put my hands in to work for example this morning I got picked at by mr.cheney to share something and I was playing around my shoe with my hands so I could keep busy and not jumble words through all that presser
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